Workbook Page 4
Many misunderstand what having good EQ means, thinking that one must be positive and controlled all the time. So it is important to know what is not EQ.
EQ is not about being nice, pleasing others or saying yes all the time. Sometimes being emotionally mature requires that you put your foot down and assert your needs while recognizing the needs of the other. Being assertive is not being aggressive, it is stating your needs maturely and respectfully.
EQ is not about becoming a more emotional person. It requires being in touch with and recognizing our emotions. EQ is not about saying everything that emerges in your mind. It means using your IQ and EQ to get great results, to be more tactful, sensitive to others and show empathy.
EQ is not about being in control of all our emotions and suppressing them all of the time. We are human and we are allowed to express our emotions. Sometimes we make mistakes and being emotionally intelligent means that we admit our mistakes, ask for forgiveness if required and learn from our mistakes. Most important is being in control of impulsive reactions which lead to damaged relationships.