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Listening Styles (6:01 mins) Copy

Listening Quiz Activity:

Read through the statements and put a tick in the brackets that you agree with.

  1. I tend to think my own thoughts when am bored of the other speaker. (     )
  2. I like giving my expert advice when someone shares a problem. (     )
  3. I get impatient when people do not get straight to the point. (     )
  4. If a conversation is boring, I make it interesting with stories. (     )
  5. I have no qualms telling people they are in the wrong. (     )
  6. I can sometimes move from topic to topic if someone bores me with their issues. (     )
  7. I paraphrase long messages back to the speaker to confirm my understanding. (     )
  8. I usually plan my replies while someone is sharing something. (     )
  9. I tend to know what people are thinking & feeling and usually offer my advice. (     )
  10. I tend to complete other peoples’ sentences if they are draggy. (     )
  11. I like conversations where I can talk about my life and needs. (     )
  12. If a speaker shuns away from the truth, I have no qualms taking them to task. (     )
  13. I like talking about many things at the same time rather than stick to one issue. (     )
  14. I notice non-verbal signs as well as words. (     )
  15. I continue nodding even if at times I may zone out of a conversation. (     )
  16. People usually seek my consul for ideas and I like to be consulted. (     )
  17. If the pauses are long, I may sometimes finish others’ sentences. (     )
  18. I prefer talking about myself than listening to someone share about themselves. (     )
  19. If someone does not take responsibility for their actions, I do not hide the truth. (     )
  20. I am effective at changing the subject in tense situations or strong disagreement. (     )
  21. I am able to keep completely quiet when listening. (     )

Transfer the ticks into the boxes below that correspond with the appropriate numbers.

 FAKER COUNSELLOR ACCELERATOR COMPETITOR CRITIC DIGRESSOR TRUE LISTENER
 #1 #2 #3 #4 #5 #6 #7
 #8 #9 #10 #11 #12 #13 #14
 #15 #16 #17 #18 #19 #20 #21
  • Which kind of listener are you?
  • Which style do you use most?
  • What are your listening patterns?
  • What can you do to become a better listener?

Empathic Listening is really listening with an open mind, without judgement, without jumping to conclusions as well as give you the space to say what you want to say. It is really not that easy, but with practice, we can!