It may start with a limiting belief or negative Self-Talk. Learn to catch yourself and be conscious of your thoughts. Other common limiting beliefs are: “I am not good enough”, “I do not deserve it”, “I am not lovable”, “I am bad / unlucky”, “I cannot trust anyone”, “I cannot change”, “I am too old to learn”…..
This leads to Self-Image – how you see yourself and accept yourself. Dr. Maxwell Maltz wrote a self-improvement book called Psycho-Cybernetics. For many years, he had a flourishing practice as a reconstructive and cosmetic facial surgeon. He was inspired to move from treating “outer scars” to “inner scars” after observing that so many patients’ unhappiness and insecurities were not cured, as they and he had believed would occur when he gave them the perfect new faces they desired. Dr. Maltz suggested that many people “see themselves” inaccurately, their perceptions distorted by unchallenged and often erroneous beliefs imbedded in the subconscious mind.
Thus if you change the way you speak to yourself on the inside, then you can change the way you feel on the outside as well. This affects your Outlook towards life, as well as your Behaviors.